Before joining the team at Joy99, I was a pastor in the local church. One of the things that I learned very quickly about pastoral care was the importance of trying not to “fix” a congregant’s pain.

It is human nature, isn’t it? We see someone struggling and we want to help! Honestly, most people are not looking for an answer, they simply want to be SEEN, HEARD, and LOVED.

Often times when we rush to problem-solving or words of comfort, the individual feels like their pain doesn’t matter. They may feel overlooked or dismissed, even if your words are true and helpful.

What is better? Taking to time to SEE their pain, HEAR their story and LOVE them right where they are at. Instead of offering solutions, join them in their pain, and perhaps say something like,

“That must be so hard.”
“I’m hearing you say this is really painful for you.”
“Know that you are loved.”
“Your pain is very valid.”
“I’m sorry you are going through this.”

Joining others in their pain is one way that God brings comfort.

Psalm 33:18 says, But the eyes of the Lord are on those who fear him, on those whose hope is in his unfailing love.

God sees us. God knows us. God could choose to bring comfort through deliverance. But, he will always comfort us with his presence.